forgiveness: we shouldn't have to understand to show a little grace

at one point in our lives we all make that one mistake. somebody gets gets hurt, people take sides, your not really sure where you stand. those who you thought were you're friends stand on the side that seems to be more popular, to be more just in a world where we try to determine what justice is. but where we go wrong is when we don't have all the facts. we don't know what really happened at that moment in time. 99% of us weren't even there. when we take the side that we believe to be true and just, we are no longer supporting a cause out of love. true love is the unconditional grace God shows us every day. it doesn't take sides, doesn't say who is wrong and who is right. it loves both sides equally, shows grace to both sides equally. as humans we want to be with the side that seems to be hurting the most, to be able to comprehend what happened and do something about it even if in the end we not only hurt the other side, but tell it that there is no love, no grace to lend them. we have all received that second chance that turned our life around, set us straight. all because one person decided to show us a little love and grace, understood that in your foolish worldly mind what you did was what you thought was cool and right at the time. as i recently discovered a friend is hurting i can only imagine where this path is going to lead. he was the driver of a car that crashed and killed one of his friends. his mistake may seem gigantic to yours, but how can you compare? how can you judge when you yourself continuously make the wrong decision and only by grace of God did the ending turn out ok. God does not call us to judge but to love all. it may be hard, we might not understand, but that shouldn't be an issue. we shouldn't have to understand every little piece of the puzzle to decide whether or not we are going to share the love and grace God has shown us continually, every time we fail, making the same mistakes over and over again. as a child of God i have no right to make this decision for i am forgiven just the same. i might never know what you were thinking at that time, what kind of pressure you may have been under, or whether you thought you were doing the right thing given the circumstances. but i want you to know i will support you. the consequences may be life changing, but you can learn tom this, come out wiser and stronger in the end. whether big or small this is a turning point for you and you can overcome it. you are my friend, family, and whether or not you were wrong i will pray for you, i will support you, i will be there for you. keep your head up brother, I'm praying for you.